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Ted Williams Arrested: Oprah Will Have to Wait

Ted Williams, arrested after raising his golden voice in a Los Angeles hotel room on Monday, exemplifies Biggie’s maxim: Mo’ money, mo’ problems.

Also for Ted Williams, mo’ problems, mo’ problems.

Last week Death and Taxes writer Colleen Stufflebeem criticized the national spirtual orgasm America was having over Ted Williams, the homeless man with the golden voice. “It’s strange how demanding and unforgiving the world can be on the common man, but how readily accepting it can then be on the common man who shamelessly broadcasts himself,” she wrote.

The story was published the day after Williams appeared on the “Today Show” when every other headline about Williams was blindly, almost nauseatingly uplifting. Needless to say, the reaction to Stufflebeem by commenters was uniformly negative. One commentor threatened to punch her in the face, and another, imaginatively named “Stuffleho,” suggested that she find a way “to rid herself of her fingers.”

It was truly amazing how violently readers reacted to a unique, though cynical, angle on what was supposed to be a heart-warming, God-affirming story about sin and retribution. Williams’ appearance on the “Today Show” was supposed to be the first chapter in an American narrative involving involving God, Hollywood, and a pair of digital bootstraps known to everyone as YouTube.

Then yesterday, headlines surfaced about Williams engaging in a spat with his daughter over money in a Los Angeles hotel room that eventually culminated in his arrest. Most of these stories were ignored by last week’s rabid commenters, probably in an effort to prevent their heads from exploding with confusion. “Fists got flying– none of which were mine,” said Williams in an “Entertainment Tonight” interview, displaying a large scratch on this left cheek.

His daughter Janey shared her side of the story with Dr. Phil. “He said, ‘You, you fat [expletive],’ and when he said that, I just got angry.”

Many people commenting on our story referred to God’s role in Williams’ change of luck. This week’s events must be very confusing for those who credited Jesus with his YouTube breakthrough.

To me, there is nothing mysterious about getting into a fight with a family member, especially one you’ve no doubt disappointed over the years. I’m not saying Janey Williams is the true victim in this story, just that things get tricky when we try to turn human beings into movie characters—and even trickier when the movie is categorized as “feel-good.”

If you are a living, breathing human, “feel-good” does not broadly apply to life.

This chapter in the Ted Williams YouTube story will most likely not be the only one that takes a sour turn. As Americans (or maybe just people) we are taught that we can pick someone up from the streets, build them into an idol, and then—once they’re rich and famous—tear them down.

We the public are the ones playing God in the Ted Williams story, and by getting in a physical altercation with his daughter, Williams has upset the flow of our favorite narrative. Williams and his family were not supposed to meet Dr. Phil for at least another two years. And it was supposed to be on Oprah.

Life is a slog. There are many moments that feel good, and for many of us there are even a few moments of genuine success. Whether Williams “deserved” his comeback is entirely irrelevant. As “the public,” let’s try, at least in some small way, to treat each other as people, not stories, and come to terms with the fact that a “second chance” isn’t usually enough for those of us who have stumbled to get back up and get it right.

  1. January 12, 2011 at 8:17 pm, Guest720410 said:

    The only thing that “gets old” are your naive and umamusing stories.

    I’ve never seen so many words used to communicate so little.

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  2. January 12, 2011 at 10:01 pm, Lauren said:

    How refreshing to read a level-headed social commentary during a week when we need compassion and thoughtfulness more than ever.

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  3. January 12, 2011 at 10:42 pm, Damien Zone said:

    This is a day late and a dollar short (although very well written) because TheDamienZone.com was on this as soon as the guy was whisked off the highway.

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  4. January 12, 2011 at 11:08 pm, Keptsecret said:

    Looks like someone (Carmel Lobello) has some personal issues. Look how much this “journalist” reads into the events.
    “This sounds like a spat between two overwhelmed people with decades of resentment between them. ” Source, please!

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  5. January 12, 2011 at 11:17 pm, Guest739692 said:

    This is the worst article. Can you find an editor? Then find a writer? Why waste your time when the article serves no purpose to begin with and it’s full of terribly worded intellect. This is unreal. I’m definitely not giving the author of this a “second chance.”

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    • January 13, 2011 at 12:29 am, WhyWhyWhyWhy said:

      I agree. I love this site and all (or almost all) of the writers are full of original thought and wit. So, why is this girl writing here? The only sensible answer must be that she has a family member or spouse employed at the site.

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      • January 13, 2011 at 7:41 pm, Carmel Lobello said:

        WhyWhyWhyWhy,

        You should feel free to skip my articles entirely from now on. Most of them are just like this.

        But thanks for your kind words about D+T! If you ever feel burdened by your own writing talent, which must be tremendous, you should start a blog. It’s difficult at times, but for the most part really fun and rewarding.

        Best,

        Carmel

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        • January 13, 2011 at 7:55 pm, Respondo said:

          WhyWhyWhyWhy, I agree with you. This writer is most likely a perfect example of nepotism.
          Nepotism= favoritism granted to relatives or friends regardless of merit.

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  6. January 13, 2011 at 12:13 am, MIRIAM VALLE said:

    We all remember who Ted Williams is, he is the homeless man who is now the new announcer for the Cleveland Cavaliers, now meet his daughter Janey Williams, she recently reunited with her famous father but why was the Police involved in their family reunion? Did she say her father was drinking again? This won’t be good news for Grandma Julia, if you want to find out more about this news and about Ms. Williams check out the rest of our story plus take a look at the photos and video
    Janey Williams: Ted Williams’ Daughter (Video) http://sports.rightpundits.com/?p=5715

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  7. January 13, 2011 at 3:06 am, J Hallaran said:

    I sure hope he gets it fixed.
    https://sites.google.com/site/bloomingflowerssite/

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  8. January 13, 2011 at 5:20 am, Tlo99 said:

    Well said.

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  9. January 13, 2011 at 4:20 pm, Tenaciousdan31 said:

    Wow. You guys are dicks. I like the story. If you guys are so pissed about his writing skills and think he needs an editor go read a fucking book. This is the internet, for christ sake, where the best you can hope for is someone who can spell. The author of this article did a pretty good job with that. Keepp up that god wrk athor and stop beeng such asshols comenterz.
    Luv Dan

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    • January 13, 2011 at 6:51 pm, Gest1 said:

      Wow. Based on your commentary, you are not one to assess writing skills.

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      • January 15, 2011 at 8:01 am, Tenaciousdan31 said:

        Like!

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        • January 15, 2011 at 8:04 am, Tenaciousdan31 said:

          Nice one me.

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        • January 15, 2011 at 8:04 am, Tenaciousdan31 said:

          Nice one me.

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      • January 15, 2011 at 8:05 am, Tenaciousdan31 said:

        I totally agree!

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  10. January 13, 2011 at 11:27 pm, soy bomb said:

    Don’t listen to these tortured pricks. I enjoyed the article.

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  11. January 14, 2011 at 1:52 am, Vike said:

    Ted Williams has never learned to not trust the media being that he was part of it. You can’t the media and especially a journalist.

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  12. January 14, 2011 at 3:01 am, peapodx88 said:

    When this story first came out, I wondered if all the people offering Ted Williams jobs, money, homes, etc were also offering to arrange counseling, rehab, etc for him FIRST. You can’t build this guy up if he doesn’t have a leg to stand on in the first place.

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  13. January 14, 2011 at 3:17 am, imahidejustlikeallofucowards said:

    Carmel,
    It seems you have a lot of jealous individuals posting redundant comments about your craft. Keep up the good work, and let their voices make you strong. It is relatively elementary to squabble back and forth with individuals hiding and commenting under a code name…
    Be blessed

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  14. January 18, 2011 at 8:00 am, Home said:

    you would know about “asian massage parlors”.

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  15. January 19, 2011 at 2:48 am, Anonymous said:

    You need to find a real job. Writing ain’t it friend.

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  16. January 19, 2011 at 2:48 am, Anonymous said:

    You need to find a real job. Writing ain’t it friend.

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  17. January 25, 2011 at 10:59 am, Topgunadpro said:

    The actual point of the article is excellent and needs to be expressed to “elites” who have their heads up their collective asses. As a person who has lived with addiction(s) most of my life, I knew immediately that a relaspe would occur very quickly and wondered how the “public” would react. The problem is, there are Ted Williams everywhere and we are all too busy to offer assistance but quick with changing our opinions (and sharing them). Perhaps if we took part of the time which is spent down grading others and put it toward offering a helping hand, we could create a better place for everyone. Learn to be truly grateful for what we have is the first step to helping others.

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  18. February 08, 2011 at 12:17 am, Dan in Colorado said:

    I agree with Ms. Lobello (except for her final comment about Asian massage parlors).

    My wife and I are stable, college-educated professionals with 2 kids, 18 & 13. We are not addicts, violent, or criminal. We are Christians who take our faith seriously. We have had lots of contact with addicts and other broken people since we were married 25 years ago, and we have done our best to help them. We twice have been foster parents to children of those we have tried to help (including now — we currently have a 13 year old foster child). We’ve found that it’s very difficult to give an addict real, meaningful, and lasting help.

    In our experience, addiction is the result of a series of bad (sinful) choices the addict has made. Often, the addict is a victim himself of a broken home, addicted/violent/criminal parents, sexual abuse, etc., which left deep emotional wounds and influenced the bad choices he made.

    God gives us free will so that we can choose to love him, or not. (Love isn’t love unless freely given).

    Since we have free will, God doesn’t usually deliver an addict completely and miraculously. Rather, recovery from addiction is a series of steps the addict has to climb, and he will tumble frequently. Not only does he have to repent of each layer of bad choices he’s made, he also must deal with the wounds of his past. Real progress is very difficult, but God can make it possible. It’s important that the addict deal with their bad choices and wounds a layer at a time. If he tries to skip things, he can repress them for a while, but then they come back to destroy him.

    Abruptly giving a home, money, and a good job to Ted Williams was foolish and probably destructive to Ted. However, his “15 minutes of fame” may give him a person who will be a real friend and partner for him, and his arrest may get him out of the limelight so that he can settle down and start the real work of recovery. However, even if he completes the process successfully, he will probably carry his scars for the rest of his mortal life, until God gives him final healing in heaven.

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    • April 28, 2011 at 5:22 pm, Mrdurham2u said:

      I liked your post except for the fact that addiction is not just bad choices but is a disease. Just like diabetes, cancer or any other disease, it must be treated properly. Bad choices is something everyone has been guilty of at some time in their lifes but the disease of addiction is much more than just a choice. With proper treatment, it can often be kept in remission with making the right choices.

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      • May 04, 2011 at 6:01 pm, Shoebear said:

        Yes, addiction has both pathological and psychological aspects, and successful treatment requires disease management and counseling/group therapy. I apologize that I didn’t acknowledge these in my first reply. However, addiction also has a spiritual/moral aspect. If you don’t address all three, the chances of long-term success are slim.

        When addiction starts, the addict first chooses to do whatever they are addicted to. As they make that choice, they are not yet addicted, so it is a moral choice. Once they do it, the pathology (addiction) component comes into play. Some addiction pathologies can build slowly and others (like crack or meth) build practically instantly.

        The addict might have been vulnerable to temptation in the first place because of previous tragedy, hardship or neglect. Furthermore, their addiction may have caused additional psychological trauma (like a drunk who is beat up, robbed or raped). So they need competant counseling and loving support, but even so, the addict can still choose to re-engage (or not) in their addiction.

        Think of an alcoholic: There is no cure, but medical treatment, counseling, and group therapy (like AA) can help a lot. However, the recovering alcoholic must also choose to stay away from their triggers (like a bar) and also be prepared to make the right choice when they (inevitably) encounter one. These are moral choices, not medical or psychological issues.

        People are more than just complicated machines. We have spirits, which are the seats of morality, love, and free will; and which allow us to have a relationship with God. Spiritual issues play a key role in addiction and recovery.

        Chistianity offers:
        – A standard of right and wrong, wisdom and folly
        – A caring God who loves you in spite of your sin, but is there to challenge and inspire you to do better next time
        – Empathetic friendship, support, and encouragement among those who struggle with sin (all of us)
        – Forgiveness when we fail and sin anyway
        After all, any sin can be addicting to some degree. In Christ, God has set up the ultimate treatment and support system for addicts (sinners). In some ways, I think God is like a great coach who teaches his players how to play, leads them to achieve their best, but loves them amd is willing to forgive and help with their failings.

        John 3:16-17 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

        In any case, addiction recovery is still a process, with progress and setbacks. Ultimately, the addict needs to prove to himself that the addictive substance/behavior is indeed destructive, and he has to learn to love himself enough to want to be safe. Taking Ted off the streets and giving him instant money and fame was way more than he was ready for, and it set him up to fail again.

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