Woman marries herself in elaborate ceremony, smooches mirror
Over the years we’ve heard our fair share of unusual weddings, but Grace Gelder has upped the ante by becoming, what The Mirror claims, is the first person in Britain to marry herself. At the very least, no one can question the fact that she’s marrying someone she truly loves.
According to Gelder, the line from the Bjork song “Isobel” where the titular character makes reference to being married to herself made an impression on the young woman when she first heard it at the age of 18.
Gelder told The Guardian that she had spent 6 years being single but, she had “…built up this brilliant relationship with myself. Nevertheless, I was aware of getting into a rut, where a relationship with someone else seemed like too much hard work. So I really wanted to pay tribute to this adventurous period of self-discovery but, at the same time, look forward to a new phase.”
Gelder took every step of the self-engagement and wedding process seriously. She even admits to being a little giddy when proposing to herself on a park bench last November. Her March wedding was set in a picturesque farmhouse in Devon, England, and was attended by 50 friends and her sister. The blushing bride even gave herself a ring and the ceremony culminated with Gelder smooching a mirror.
Of course, the display did invite some accusations of narcissism from attendees and critics alike. However, Gelder takes that all in stride.
“The day was obviously centered on me, the final event being a mirror for me to kiss, but it also felt like I was sharing something very special with my friends, giving everyone an opportunity to reflect on their own ideas of love and commitment.” she told The Guardian.
The marriage itself isn’t legally binding. In fact, Gelder seems content to have it both ways, and is open to the possibility of meeting a partner that doesn’t share the same skin.
“And just because I married myself, it doesn’t mean that I’m not open to the idea of sharing a wedding with someone else one day.”
Although Gelder may be a nuptial trailblazer in the UK, she’s certainly not the first to make a formal lifelong romantic commitment to herself. On this side of the pond, Nadine Schweigert of North Dakota wed herself in a commitment ceremony following a devastating divorce. The practice is popular enough that last year, an Indigogo campaign raised the start-up capital for the production of self-marriage kits complete with vows, a ring and daily affirmation cards.
Truth be told, there’s something inspiring and life-affirming to people who refuse to cave to the idea of settling for relationships and commitments that are less than satisfying in order to bow to some familial or societal pressures. There’s something to be said for formally committing to love and cherish yourself for the rest of your life.